We live in a world where fluent communication and sociable people that
everyone in the party stick around them
are seen as an art or god gift, and more than an acquirable skill.
Every day, we spend so much time with foreign people, yet we struggle
with how to behave correctly and meaningfully communicate. Here are some useful
tips for improving your social skills:
Human being is a social person,
so behave as a one!
If you feel that you don’t behave like a social person, you may think of
changing this attitude and behave like a more social creature.
Don’t let anxiety to hold you back and isolate you. Make the right decision
to break the social obstacles, talk to new people and to go into conversations
even when feel nervous about the whole thing.
By practice, it will get easier and you will find yourself quickly improving
your social skills.
Pay closer attention to what your
body language is telling about you
This is another important topic when it comes to social skills; non-verbal
communication is very crucial, so pay more attention to the type of body
language you use with interlocutors.
Try to appear confident, relaxed and happy, make appropriate amounts of eye
contact, not too much as a creep or too little like if you don’t to talk at
all. Also appear open to conversation and accept different opinions.
Read other people
body language
The unspoken communication is the
hidden part of the iceberg, this means it is our looks, our body language,
and the way that we carry ourselves signify a lot. People can struggle with their
ability to understand what these qualities mean in others, as well as their individual
awareness of the signs they are making off to others.
Learning other people body language;
which is the slight movement of hand, the type of eye contact, signs of changes
in mood, as well as their more obvious large changes in expressions, learning
all these things help us to understand others far more.
Increase your knowledge about
social skills
Nowadays, there are numerous books available online or on the market that
can help you significantly learn specific social skills and ways to start
conversations.
Yet, remember that reading about these skills will not make you an expert
by the end of day. You will need to practice them over and over again.
Keep your mind sharp
If you are leaving you comfort zone and going to a party or spending time
in a crowd that seems overwhelming, start steadily and don’t force yourself
into crowds so quickly.
Be an active
listener
This is another significant skill
to learn. If you don’t learn to be good listeners,
and to show real interest in others, you will not go far in multiple areas of your
life.
The good signs of active listening
are; be sure to make good eye contact with the interlocutor, repeat back in
other term what you did understand, or summarize back what they have told you, express
your common understanding and interest in what they are saying.
Ask questions that elongate the
conversation
If you want to develop a fruitful conversation and have the attention off
you during it, get familiar with asking open-ended questions. Encourage others
to talk about themselves and their interests so you won’t have to make the awkward
talking.
Ask questions that need more than a yes or no answer and you surely open
the door to invite the other person to maintain the conversation going.
Encourage interlocutors to talk
about themselves
As we said earlier, most people enjoy talking about themselves and their experiences,
so don’t feel shy to ask a question about a person’s career, habits, or family.
Show them that you are interested in hearing what they are talking about.
Determine your own goals
Set up some goals for yourself. Possibly you want to start practicing one
particular skill and mastering it or maybe you want to attend a social activity
in your local community.
Establish a precise goal (or goals) and start working on strategies and
manners that will improve your social life.
Don’t be rude: Offer compliments!
Compliments can be a majestic way to open the door to a conversation. Offer
a neighbor or a co-worker a compliment (but a sincere one) on a presentation he
gave at a meeting or compliment your family member on his new car, this will
make you a sociable person and conversation will be easy to start as never before.
Compliments show others that you care about them and you are friendly.
Join a local social skills group
Several communities give social skill support groups. Support groups tremendously
help people who feel introvert, shy, awkward, or extremely anxious in social
situations learn and practice new social skills.
You will start improving social skills significantly and may be able to
make new friends who understand or have your difficulties.
Stay tuned with current events
Read up on current trends and news stories so you have something to talk
about with other people.
Remember to avoid anything that is controversial, such as religion or politics,
but do talk about other news stories that may be of interest.
Over all, Be positive
If you think you have a lot of unhelpful thoughts about your social
interactions, just get rid off them.
For instance, if you think that you are really awkward with other people and
you will embarrass yourself talking to them, you will sit in the corner at a
party. As a result, you may leave the party thinking that you must be really
awkward because no one talked to you.
Recognize negative thoughts that are probable dragging you down. Replace
them with more practical thoughts such as “I will make conversation and I will
meet new people, it is not awkward at all!”
Great social skills don’t come easily as we have already said, you need to
practice yourself and really try all these tips by talking with other people.
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